“If that's how I feel, that's it”
When we say “emotional thinking”, the concept is rather simple: thinking through your own emotions, coming to conclusions based on how you feel. A more academically manner: “When we evaluate things that happen to us and reality according to how we feel we think emotionally.” Here is an example that happens or can happen in our everyday life: “I’m anxious so something terrible is bound to happen, so even if I stay at home today and try to relax or do a pleasant activity, I won’t be able to enjoy.”
It’s the lump in the throat feeling when everything is fine and then a difficulty comes up, one that we never experienced before, and we panic not knowing how to deal with it right away. So instead of looking at the bright side, we are feeling powerless.
You feel alone, isolated and feel like no one cares about you, through this you end up judging yourself and others, lowering your self-esteem and trust. You will probably think that if you are embarrassed, it means that others will tease you. These thoughts lead to discomfort and stress, even if they do not reflect what is really happening, they are in your mind. Many of these reality-distorting processes, these automatic thoughts, occur at the unconscious level. They are habits that we don't realize we have and we don't even realize that it's in our power to change them.
But thankfully there are ways to calm anxiety, so if you feel a rush building inside you, you just need to distract yourself. Here are some tips: Take deep breaths, conciously controlling the process and use your imagination to induce feelings of well-being and safety. “You can’t be both scared and calm all at once, so focus on lengthening your exhale to get the most out of it. The long exhale is what tells your body everything is OK.” Just concentrate that with each one, imagine yourself inhaling love, peace, and comfort, and exhaling fear, worry, and tension.
Anxiety is normal but we can learn how to handle it.
"You don't have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you." – Dan Millman
Bibliography:
BOOKS: „Believe in Yourself” by Joseph Murphy and „The Power of Positive Thinking” by Norman Vincent Pealw
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