Heartbreak can feel like the end of the world for most of us, losing your boo is not the easiest thing, but you have to go through it and realise that maybe that was the best thing that happened to you. This experience can be as painful as physical pain.
Let's take a look at what happens in your brain during heartbreak. The researchers have shown that the brain reacts to heartbreak similar to when people experience withdrawal from several addictions. Your ex was feeding you with the happy hormones, dopamine and oxytocin and since he's gone they are gone too, so that is why you are feeling sad. It's only a matter of time until you will feel like yourself again but you have to go through pain and be reborn as a butterfly.
When you're at the end of a relationship that didn't want to end you are still very much in love but you also feel confused and maybe you didn't see that coming, you will maybe want to still have contact with the ex or you'll embarrass yourself by begging the other person not to leave you. Trust me the more you put a person on a pedestal the more it will hurt, so the best thing you can do is just letting go, not trying to fix them or reconcile, now the most important person to you has to be you and your healing.
Now, how do you get over the supposed love of your life? This is a tricky question because everyone's journey of healing is different but here's some advice:
You have to allow yourself to feel your feelings, be gentle with yourself and cry it out for a few days, let all that pain and emotions be consumed, don't hold it in. Give yourself time and space to grieve.
Cut all contact with your ex. You don't need to check up on him and what he is doing, unfollow him, mute his story and stop your worrying thoughts.
You need to find a support system, go to family and friends for support, let them listen to you and be vulnerabile.
Our brains tend to remember only the good times in a relationship, so try to remember the bad times, maybe you weren't as compatible as you thought!
Lastly, take care of yourself and your soul. You will get your soulmate and he will be nice and sweet with you and not ever let you go, that's how love should feel like.
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