Everybody has trauma, that's how things work, you can't escape them, even if you think you are not affected, someone is gonna rise, push your buttons and discover you are not quite fully healed or trauma free. How about transgenerational trauma? How do they affect us? What do our ancestors' behavior, ideas and pain do to us and our destiny?
Our trauma is transferred through the subconscious from our mother, grandpa, great grandmother and so on, they were put through pain, wars but that doesn't mean they did want to pass it to you, that's just how our brains and DNA work. BUT, how can we break the cycle and not repeat their mistakes and live their destiny? We can live a destiny that is not ours in order to honor our ancestors and take their pain on us.
It's now understood that newborns don't come into this world with a blank slate, their emotional history begins even before conception. All the eggs a woman carries in her lifetime develops when she is a fetus in her mother's womb. So, practically a grandmother carried both her daughter and nephews. That means that we are exposed to the emotions and experiences that our grandmother went through.
Beyond inheriting skin or eye color, we also inherited our family stories, perspectives on life and destinies. There's a part of them that lives through us, we have to address the unresolved issues and conflicts that may have been passed through generations.
An example of transgenerational trauma in family would be a cycle of abuse and anxiety in ongoing generations, also extreme poverty, sudden deaths, crime, war or torture of members of the family.
How can we get rid of them ? Learn to control your overwhelming emotions, write them in a diary and try breathing exercises. Try to go to a special therapist and tell your story and he or she will help you get to the root of the problem, you ll see how many similarities you ll find with your family members, and be aware that things that happened to them can happened to you too all over again if you don't break the cycle. For example, your great grandad died in WW2 and your great grandmother never heard from him again, all the pain she felt will pass to you and you'll eventually have abandonment issues and you will not know why if you are not aware of transgenerational trauma and don't know your family's history.
Maybe you have to dig deeper and see where your problems really started. Try and get to know yourself and your family better and you'll find answers easily. We all deserve to live a life that belongs to us and be the best version of ourselves.
Get to know yourself, get healed!
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