Just imagine being in school and your so-called “best friend” is whispering something to another random classmate. Instantly, you try to find out what they are talking about in this undercover, FBI-like manner. Using your very practical methods, you discover that your bestie just told your secret away. How horrible! Immediately, you attempt to figure out the reason why this thing happened. Aren’t secrets meant to be SECRET? Maybe they hate you, or they did not think your secret was meant to be kept private? These questions can go on until you realize it is just a waste of time and that everyone will do it forever. Well, in this article you will find out the reasons why people do this and how you can avoid this situation, without becoming anti-social.
First of all, you don't have to feel worried if you need to confess your issues. When something happens, maybe you took the wrong path or somebody hurt you emotionally, stress occurs and you feel a deep sentiment of guilt. With that being said, any type of sincere disclosure reduces tension and makes you feel relaxed.
According to Jessica Salerno, an associate professor of psychology in the School of Social and Behavioral Sciences at Arizona State University, when someone finds out a secret that doesn’t match with their own moral rules, they may want to punish the person who confided in them by revealing the secret. This means that trusting someone can be risky, as the person who is told the secret may not keep it private if it sounds crazy to them. Unfortunately, if a friend tells your secret away, there is nothing that can be done in order to “undo” the action.
Therefore, you will develop trust issues, leading to actual health problems. Finding the right people who can really keep a secret can be quite problematic since they all seem “the perfect match” at first. But you can’t know what their intentions are. You should know that the other person’s mentality can play a significant role in the sharing of a secret. If the person who wants to be your friend gives you multiple signs that they may just wish for you to tell them more stuff about yourself, then you should cut any relationship ASAP.
Is it worth telling others your secrets even though there is a risk of disclosure? It is normal to want to confide in others, but is it worth the consequences? Well, in order to avoid this kind of situation, you have to discover who is the actual person that pretends to be safe and not a “snitch”. Techniques like asking questions on any topic, looking interested in their passions, and becoming better friends with them may be some of the best solutions out there. But remember: don’t tell any secrets yet!
Here’s a funny but useful tip: if you feel like no one is good enough to be told anything, then you can confess to the AI Chat GPT app. It can give you some great advice and make you laugh.
Knowing how to choose the right people is crucial for having a healthy relationship and feeling relieved. Even the strangest, biggest secrets should have a safe and trustworthy place. Don’t just act careless if your friend reacts rudely when they hear what happened. It means that you didn’t find the right person.
All in all, it might appear hard to find the right friend who is a good listener and a secret keeper, but it is worth it. In this way, you’ll stop worrying about the secrets you confessed and live a stress-free life, at least from this point of view.
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